FOUNDER'S PERSONAL STORY
SANDEE VILLEZA
I didn’t become a couples therapist because I had all the answers — I became one because I was searching for them, too.
Early in my marriage, I felt caught in cycles I didn’t fully understand. I longed for connection, but whenever I asked for it, I worried I sounded “needy.” My partner would pull away when things got tense, and I’d chase harder — convinced that if I just explained things better, we’d finally get it right. But we kept missing each other.
Everything changed when I discovered attachment theory. Suddenly, the blueprint made sense: the anxious/avoidant dance, the protective walls, and the hidden fears driving our reactions. I realized neither of us was broken — we were simply trying to feel safe. That insight not only transformed my marriage but reshaped how I wanted to help others.
I became a Marriage and Family Therapist and have spent over 10 years helping couples heal attachment wounds, understand their cycles, and create secure bonds. But I also saw the limits of therapy. There are only so many couples I can sit with each week, and the tools that changed my life shouldn’t stay locked behind a therapy room door.
That’s why I’m expanding online — to bring these insights to more couples, wherever they are. Through courses, workshops, and downloadable tools, I teach people how to recognize patterns, build emotional safety, and restore connection. Whether you’re in therapy, waiting for a therapist, or just starting to explore your patterns, my mission is simple: to make healing practical, accessible, and real. Because love isn’t the problem — it’s the patterns standing in the way. And once you see them, you can change them.
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